Illusions of separation

I’ve noticed for a while now that whenever I start writing, my natural inclination is to talk about what ‘we’ do, and how things affect ‘us’.

And copy-writers are always nagging me horribly about using ‘you’ instead.

Just lately I realised why that doesn’t sit comfortably with me – I don’t think of myself as separate from the rest of the world. We are all one. Or to be precise,  we are all expressions of one infinite being, doing a better or worse job of pretending to be separate.

Having said that, I expect I shall continue to talk to “you” in my published writing. It does seem to work better for attracting work and money.

I suspect that’s because the expressions of us who are best able to pretend to be separate are also those who are best at accumulating the bits and bytes we call money. Of course, that may be because we need that illusion of separation to believe in the scarcity that would make accumulating money a useful thing to do. I don’t know.

Be aware that I am not saying the people who are good at attracting money by pretending to be separate are in any way worse than those of us who struggle with being separate. I am certainly not assuming that they are unaware of their infiniteness and connection to all the other expressions of us.

They are simply behaving more like they are unaware, and for all we know they may be doing that consciously.  And if anything, that means they may be the superior beings, because they are better at playing the game.

Whatever the game is!

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It’s all you …

Happy group of connected people enjoying life at sunset

If you really believe that you are an infinite being, then it follows that there cannot be anything that you are not.

So when you are seeing behaviour and beingness that you don’t approve of, it can only be an aspect of you. All the anger, meanness, greed, lack of caring, war-mongering, cruelty … all of that, all YOU.

Trump, May, Johnson, Corbyn, Putin, Kim Jong Un, even Farage … all aspects of *you*

Crazed jihadists, fundamentalist Christians, flat-earthers, and rabid priests of science … all aspects of you.

But don’t be too hard on yourself, you are also all the good things in the world – the mother’s loving smile, the baby’s chuckle, the artist’s fine appreciation of the world, the selfless caring of the relief worker – all you.

Everything you criticise or admire in “others” … all you!

And yet, we’re always being told to be compassionate towards others because we don’t know what’s going on in their lives. Surely if they are an expression of your infinite being, how can you not know?

The answer that works best for this particular expression of Us, the one experiencing being an English man in his 50s called Andrew Horder, is that we do know, we just choose, for some rather perverse and as yet unexplained reason, to close ourself off to the knowing.

So the question then becomes, what would it take for us to acknowledge that knowing?

And how might that make the world a better place?

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Maybe time really is flying?

Time management is nonsense

Do you remember when you were a child and sometimes a day felt like a week and a week felt like a year, because the possibilities felt so endless, and the adventures you could have were so vast and varied?

During my morning meditation the other day it occurred to me that what if, as infinite beings having a human experience, what we see as a lifetime is really, in the context of the existence of an infinite being, just a day or so of grand and glorious adventures?

What if for our real selves, the things we allow to upset and frustrate our human selves are like those little tears and tantrums we experienced as human toddlers? And instantly forgot when the cookie jar opened, or we found something else to explore.

What if, to our infinite selves, the world is one big cookie jar, open and ready to sustain us as we venture out into this brief reality with gleeful curiosity?

How much joy could we spread then?